Sam Morris / Las Vegas Sun
While riding a bus to North Vista Hospital to inquire about any open positions, Peggy Tauber arranges her resumes and paper work while job searching Tuesday, July 13, 2010.
Monday, July 19, 2010 | 2 a.m.
WHY THEY STAY
Counselors and residents at Shade Tree believe women are staying longer with abusive mates because with so few available jobs, they feel an abusive home is better than starving on the streets.Beyond the Sun
When she was a young woman, Peggy Tauber was on top of the world.
She loved her job as a secretary, was married, had a child and a beautiful home.
Then life threw Peggy a few curve balls.
She divorced her husband after seven years. She lost the beautiful home, the comfortable lifestyle.
But she still had a job and her daughter.
At least until the Great Recession.
Peggy lost her job in 2008. She found work at a fast-food restaurant, making just above minimum wage. When that job disappeared she moved in with her adult daughter and her boyfriend, hoping to buy some time so she could get back on her feet.
But a new job never materialized and before she knew it the boyfriend, she said, went from treating Peggy as a welcomed guest to using her as a punching bag.
On her 61st birthday, she clipped on her dog Kelly’s leash and walked out the door. She ended up at Shade Tree, the shelter for homeless and abused women.
“I came to a point where I said to myself ‘I’m not taking this anymore,’ ” Peggy says. “I want to be treated with respect.”
Peggy is one of tens of thousands of women in the United States who have fled abusive relationships since the recession began.
National studies have long shown that economic hardship is a leading factor in domestic violence and that abuse increases in recessions.
The problem has grown so widespread amid the Great Recession, that even the United Nations has addressed it.
In a September 2009 address on the struggling world economy, U.N. Deputy Secretary-General Asha-Rose Migiro cited a U.N. survey that found a 75 percent increase in demand for services at American shelters for battered women in 2008 over 2007 levels.
“We have seen rising levels of despair and frustration in families and communities around the world, exacerbating violence against women,” she said.
A Justice Department study in March found that the persistent unemployment and high rates of foreclosures unique to this recession have made family stresses particularly high, resulting in increased incidents of domestic violence.
The report said this was due to both decreased social pressure to not abuse the spouse and the increased opportunity for abuse to occur amid unemployment and social isolation.
Evidence of increased abuse is on the faces of the women who have sought refuge at Shade Tree and the two other Las Vegas Valley shelters. Nevada has the highest foreclosure and unemployment rates in the country, and the shelters report an increase in demand for services since the recession and foreclosure crisis began. And domestic violence arrests rose 25 percent from 2005 to 2009, according to Metro Police.
And many abuse victims are turning to shelters such as Shade Tree.
In 2007, the shelter provided 73,000 “bed nights” for women and their children, says Marlene Richter, Shade Tree’s executive director. In 2008 the tally jumped to 98,000 bed nights. Last year it was more than 100,000. And the numbers have not gone down this year, she says.
Many of the families were facing life on the streets simply because they had no money to pay for a roof over their heads. But about 35 percent of the women and 50 percent of the children are there because they had to flee abuse and had nowhere else to go, Richter says.
The volume and ferocity of the violence has shocked even a hardened shelter administrators like Richter.
“We’re seeing the survivors are in such bad shape when they’re coming in,” Richter said. “No abuse is OK, but there’s more violence, more body harm has happened to these women and their mental state is so much more diminished.”
Since the recession began, twice as many of the women have needed intensive counseling. She’s had to hire outside therapists to help the overwhelmed staff meet the demand for counseling.
“Frequently they’re suicidal, they have no hope,” Richter said. “It’s that feeling that there’s nowhere to go and no way to improve their situation.”
The lousy economy has affected battered women on two levels.
Counselors and residents at the shelter believe women are staying longer with abusive mates because with so few available jobs, they feel an abusive home is better than starving on the streets.
In better times, the women might have found help by spending a day or two with family or friends. But that support group is fractured, too, because of the economy, Richter says.
“Their friends are leaving, their family are leaving. That support network is eroding. And so people aren’t seeing what’s happening at home and there’s no buffer, no opportunity for things to cool off.”
At Shade Tree, women get job skills training, career coaching and help finding jobs.
But those jobs are scarce.
It is taking women an average of three times as long, since before the recession, to find jobs and save up enough money to move out of Shade Tree. It used to take the women two to three weeks to find jobs. Today it takes six to eight months. And the jobs they’re finding are generally lower paying and part time, so it takes them longer to save up enough money to move out.
Peggy has been in the shelter since early March, and her daughter, herself now a victim of abuse, has since joined her. Peggy hopes they can heal together.
Peggy has been looking for work for more than three months. She’s ready to be out on her own, just as soon as she can afford it.
She has updated her resume, sharpened her office skills, and practiced interviews. And every day she hikes up and down the streets of Las Vegas, submitting resumes. She spends hours each week following up on the phone, hoping for a bite.
So far, she hasn’t had so much as an interview.
Still, her confidence grows with each day. It gets easier to approach shopkeepers and office managers. She’d like to land a job in an office or do security work.
“But honestly I’ll go back to fast food work, anything to get out on my own again,” she says. “Work is work. In this economy I know I can’t be choosy. I’ll take what I can get. It’s called survival.”
Shelter staff say if anyone can do it, Peggy can. She recovered her confidence more quickly than most and her positive attitude has been an inspiration to other women at the shelter.
Peggy credits her Christian faith for helping her keep her chin up and her resolve strong.
“The recession has been hard and I do have my dark moments, but you can’t sit and mope about it,” Peggy says. “There is work out there. It’s harder to find than before the recession, but I can’t just wait for things to get better. I have to get out there and be persistent. That’s the only way to get what I want out of life.”






The Recession has been rough on a lot of people. I'm happy to see this topic pointed out. The corollary effects of mass unemployment are often not acknowledged, and abuse, even in these times, should not be tolerated by men or women. Shade Tree is one of the few consistent social services in vegas.
I do wish there was more information on the statement "The report said this was due to decreased social pressure to not abuse the spouse..." What is that based on? I have not encountered that at all. Quite the contrary, as a man, I don't feel like I can raise my voice within 100 feet of a woman without being labeled a potential abuser.
I am going to say this, Men who beat and verbally abuse their woman, are sick, weak, and souless little babies who should be removed from the houshold, jailed and legally restrained and let the victimized women have everything. A man who beats a woman is the most despicable piece of garbage who crawls on this earth, and believe me I'm going easy on the harshness of my language here...
Thanks, Stephanie Tavares, for the great reporting.
Shnorshel:
WTF planet are you from??? You need to connect the dots from your keyboard to the medicine cabinet, bud.
Sharon Angle wants to take away the one remaining safety net, social security that the people who have worked paid for not the government. Thank God Bush and Cheny did not get thier wish of rewarding the banking industry, who made huge contributitions to them,by turning social security over to the banking industry.What a mess America would have now.
Sharron's advice: Stay with abusive husband--it's part of god's lemondade making plan.
So why didn't the daughter leave with the Mom?! The boyfriend needs to get his A$$ kicked!! A REAL man doesn't hit elderly women, or women period! Peggy my heart bleeds for you. I'm sorry you and many others in this town are in these desperate situations, or afraid to leave abusive relationships because they have nowhere to go.
"I am going to say this, Men who beat and verbally abuse their woman, are sick, weak, and souless little babies who should be removed from the houshold, jailed and legally restrained and let the victimized women have everything. A man who beats a woman is the most despicable piece of garbage who crawls on this earth, and believe me I'm going easy on the harshness of my language here..."
I totally agree, but this woman and her daughter are both victims, and the mother seems like she has been a victim multiple times. Hmm. I wonder if we can infer anything from this? :scratchhead:
"As sad as it is, she is not alone, but at her age, 61, couldnt she go for early retirement, she must have some "brownie points" saved up. I went when I was 60, and never regreted one second, slightly lower pension, but then I dont live in the USA"
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She was a secretary. Most likely the only thing she was doing was paying into SS, which probably would not pay enough out to support anything. Americans do not just get pensions apparently like you do. We have to do it all on our own, plus pay our own medical. And no she cannot have her SS, what little it is, at the age of 61.
Personally this should also be a wake up call to all women. Get college educated and work (or even some form form of technical skills), but get something beside secretarial/fast food/unskilled labor, even if you are married. Build yourself enough skills that if you end up on your own you are not an uneducated single woman
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When she was a young woman, Peggy Tauber was on top of the world.
She loved her job as a secretary, was married, had a child and a beautiful home.
Then life threw Peggy a few curve balls.
She divorced her husband after seven years. She lost the beautiful home, the comfortable lifestyle.
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Confused...she is 61 years old. If she was married as a young woman and only was married for 7 years, it seems like she has been on her own for probably about 30 years.
Did she not work to do any sort of savings or 401K or anything for 30 some years?
to clarify a few things:
1. Peggy is not a victim of serial abuse. She is a survivor of one abuser. I'm sorry the story did not make that clearer.
2. For the thirty years "in between" her marriage and the incidents that brought her to shade tree, Peggy was fully employed as an office worker. Like many, many las Vegans, she burned through her savings during the period she was laid off during the recession.
3. Remember layoffs started in early 2007 for many companies ... before the official collapse in fall 2007. That's more than 3 years of economic hardship for many families.
Good example of knowing how to save, save, save.
We will only see instances of domestic violence increase as long as unemployment continues to go up. What is worse is those that have been out of work and have had their unemployment benefits run out. Those GOP obstructionists that will not vote to extend benefits own some of the responsibility for this.
"In 2007, the shelter provided 73,000 "bed nights" for women and their children, says Marlene Richter, Shade Tree's executive director."
You all seem to have missed how biased this article, its author and you posters are. Shade Tree is a publicly-funded entity. It violates not only all concepts of fairness but both state and federal law against entities like this from discriminating by gender, etc. It plainly offers services ONLY to women. Where is the safety net for abused men and their children? Looks like nowhere in Vegas.
This woman is 61 years old, the same age as I am. She is NOT going to find a job. Maybe, just maybe, she may get a part time job at one of the box stores now that the kids will be going back to school, but the odds are so totally against her.
As far as working in an office, she first MUST change her style of dress for going on interviews. NO 61 year old woman should be showing her cleavage like that (nothing wrong with having it, but keep it covered on job interviews and bring it out when you're going out for the evening). It's bad enough to be up against the younger women but the first step is to dress appropriately. The dress is fine but it cries out for a light jacket (preferably in black) to cover the cleavage and make the dress more business like). Yeah, I know it's hot in Vegas but office workers there DO dress conservatively.
When I lost my job in 2008 (right after my 18 year relationship ended), I too went thru what I had left of my retirement 401K money just to make ends meet. That's when I realized Vegas was not being a positive experience so I moved back to my home State. And I STILL don't have a job and yes, I do totally believe it is because of my age. I lost my unemployment in April so I literally am indigent with barely making enough money at temp jobs to meet my basic financial responsibilites like car insurance.
This woman may very well take her social security next year but she has to GET to next year and that's why she is out looking for a job, any kind of job to get her through. I intend to take my social security next year and it is decent enough since I've been working for over 40 years and had two good paying jobs in the last 30 years, but it still won't be enough to live on. (I also never thought I would actually say "I wish I was a year older" this last birthday!). And that's why I need a job to get me thru the next 10 months until I can apply for SS. I'll take a part time job so I can keep it after getting the SS. I have already put my name on waiting lists in our area for "senior housing" (ouch! That sounds so old) but the rents are adjusted according to your income. And a lot of these senior complexes are really quite nice (I just have a hard time accepting I'm old enough to be living in those places!).
This woman is one of many who are in the same position. She probably stayed with the abuser because she had no where to go and no money to do it. You can't fault her for that. I hope she finds a job because - and I'll use a cliche here - I feel her pain.
@stephanieTavares,
So she was fully employed for 30 years, but burned through her savings in less than 2? If that is the case, then this lady's financial problems started long, long before she was laid off.
Allen,
Thanks for the comments, although we're not on Twitter here -- no need for the @ symbol, man. Names will do just fine.
And wasn't aiming to write a story judging anyone's life decisions. The readers do enough of that for us.
The truth is many, many low income workers in Las Vegas do not save enough money to retire on. Many of their retirement accounts took massive hit during the stock market drops. Some never made enough to save anything. And many, I'm sure, made poor decisions regarding savings.
That's not the point, though. The point is to show people in Las Vegas what it's really like for the "invisible" people out there looking for work and struggling. If we didn't write about it in the paper, we would be doing a disservice to the community.
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I can't believe (yes I can) once again LV has no empathy for its fellow man, really? even after 9/11? what happened to the fake unity? even after the Great Depression, even after floods, hurricanes, really? so much negativity in one state this may be the reason why NV is on the bottom and sinking hello new detroit
Everyone reading or writing about this article knows much of how we got into this "Depression." But how do we fix it, and who does the fixing? Business owners do not seem to be interested in creating more jobs, and banks are not in the mood to make many loans. This climate seems to exist, partly, because the government is about to CHANGE our lives in January, 2011 - by invoking NEW TAXES on everyone and everything, from personal and business income, to profits, to health care, and more.
SO, business owners appear to be waiting to see what effect all this will be on their ability to make a profit. That means AT LEAST 5 more months of NO NEW JOBS created, and possibily MORE FAILED BUSINESSES - due to fiscal inviability. Our country is in DEEP trouble. The government cannot fix it, but they COULD make the business climate better. That would help.
As for jobless benefits for the unemployed, if the Congress (on both sides) WANTED to pass such temporary legislation - THEY COULD DO IT. But to get agreement, Democrats would have to remove non-related "Pet Projects" currently in the Bill. - Why can't the Democrats use their (proverbial) "Sword of Damocles" - as they did for the Stimulus Bill and Health Care) - to cut through Republican delay tactics - and PASS THE BILL? It seems that Democrats are MORE interested in making the Republicans LOOK BAD, than in giving money to the jobless to live on.
So who are really the "bad guys" in Washington, DC?
Add to this to huge number of business and personal bankruptcies, the loss of jobs, the elimination of corporate pensions for employees, the raiding of pension funds, and the downsizing of corporations (that eliminates more jobs) - and you have the destruction of fiscal solvency and retirement plans for employees. So the only thing left, is for the government to step in (but it is broke).
The final impetus for our financial demise, was the "American Dream (no down payment) Act" that President George W. Bush signed into law in 2003 fostered the relentless sub-prime mortgages for anyone - with or without any money. -- -- (A review: http://www.lewrockwell.com/bovard/bovard...)
This legislation ultimately caused the domino effect of bad securities that were written, which wound up passing through Fannie Mae and into the hands of hedge-funds and investors around the globe. Then, these bad securities took down Wall Street.
I agree that some financial regulation is now needed to preclude such a future crisis. We must RETHINK what we WANT to do, and how much we CAN do. We must also consider how it will affect ALL the citizens of the United States.
And we must ensure funding is available BEFORE Congress spends money it doesn't have. If we don't do this, and more, there will be more people in need - just like Peggy Tauber.
"If we don't do this, and more, there will be more people in need - just like Peggy Tauber."
I'm RETHINKING that prosaic wingnuttery WILL not help Peggy.
--Plato ScribeBucket
Good for you Peggy for not giving up.I'm also unemployed and looking for work while staying with a friend.I believe things will get better.Where does you son-in-law live? I'd like to pay him a visit.lol.
I think she looks very professional. I would hire her if I owned a company. This is an interesting story and I'm sure there are many people in Peggy's situation. What a mess we're in.
vegasresident says go to college to get or keep a job. That's another one of those urban myths that needs to die. Two of the highest unemployed groups are recent, within the last few years, college grads and college grads over 50. The unemployment rate for college educated workers is at a record and growing. It would be even higher but employers over the years have shifted jobs that were quite well done by HS grads to bottom of the barrel college grads. I can't tell you how many jobs I've seen where they want a college grad to work alongside their charges on the shop floor. Not just supervise but do the actual work too.
Older people have always had a hard time getting jobs. Unless one is a top tier manager, most older employees educated or not have much younger bosses and department heads. Bosses who feel uncomfortable around others who remind them of their parents. Make up stories of how the oldsters are unreliable, ignorant, and stupid. Totally the opposite of reality but it gives those youngsters an out when they fire the oldsters. Then of course when those ignorant bosses get older their younger generations toss them out too.
Employers are screaming for increases in the educated immigrant visas. Taking jobs away from Americans in their own country to offer them to outsiders with much lower pay and bennies using the excuse that they want to hire only the best. More like hire foreigners and the CEO and his staff get bigger bonuses. We are also in the early innings of sending educated jobs overseas. It is no longer true that a college education is a guarantee of a great job, opportunities and a lifetime of higher pay. For years the educated have stepped on and ridiculed the working stiffs every chance they got. Now the educated are on the chopping block and payback time is here. Enjoy.
In the USA 1% of the people have 95% of the money. At that ratio you only have to look in the history books to see what happens with this kind of ratio.
Many good points have been made here. Socrates, especially. I am 69. After an abusive relationship that was more mentally abusive than physical, I left him, but not before he had convinced me to use up my retirement funds in creating a business that he did not run properly.
I went back to Las Vegas to start over. I was fortunate to get work fairly quickly; however, one business after another has failed or reorganized and it has been more and more difficult to find the next job, even with a college degree. This time a year has passed with only one interview so far.
I now have no savings left and have just drawn the last of my unemployment. My social security is not enough to live on. I'm trying to get an on-line business going but don't have the capital needed to get the exposure needed. I can't afford the copays for doctors or prescriptions, much less the utilities and other routine expenses above my rent. I am providing a home for my adult daughter who is physically disabled and trying to qualify for Disability so she can get the knee and foot surgery that will ultimately enable her to seek employment. She is working on her Ph.D. on-line now to use the time she has available.
Now just try to tell me that all unemployed people are slackards and lazy.
<So she was fully employed for 30 years, but burned through her savings in less than 2? If that is the case, then this lady's financial problems started long, long before she was laid off>
I think the abuser husband and/or daughter's boyfriend had something to do with her going thru her savings So don't assume that she alone went through her money.
OMG ! This was a very powerful story, yet some of the comment makers are such idiots - I'm losing hope for humanity. Doesn't anyone care about each other anymore? We are all affected by the state of the world today - ALL OF US. Be kind, help your fellow man/woman, bring positive into our universe instead of all the negative that is around us each day. Make a change now. PLEASE !!! I was an abused wife - my (now ex) husband put a gun to my head & threatened my life. I got away unharmed physically, but the memory of pain from the abuse I suffered will always be a part of me - it is my scar. Thank SafeNest for all they do!! I gave my abuser everything - he took it & more. After I left & filed for divorce, I lost my job and was unemployed 19 months...I am 45 yrs old. In LV there were a total of 6 job interviews during that time, and recently I got a simple job making less than half of what I had. However, I am very grateful for what I now have, a very simplified life, living with my adult son and I own only what can fit in a bedroom. A far cry from where I've been, but since my priorities have changed I am well, happy and at peace within. I wish we all could learn these lessons. What matters most costs nothing.
As a person who has been through the domestic violence drama my heart goes out to you Peggy. I feel your pain, especially with children. It's a challenge for an "older" woman to get a decent job in this town in a good economic climate let alone a tough one that is historical like the present. As a college-educated, middle-aged woman I am not even getting calls back from fast food places. I was one of two people out of 70 in my last company that had a degree from a college (and I am not talking online degrees) and I was one of the lowest paid employees there! These days you need to have a degree to get a decent secretarial position, I have been doing this over 25 years. A degree doesn't mean much anymore, an unfortunate reality. Good Luck Peggy, I am rooting for you over here!
That one commenter who said that women should go to college and acquire job skills--that sounds like good advice except one thing you DON'T want to worry about if you're unemployed is student loan payments.
Last year I was called for jury duty in LA on a case involving domestic violence. During jury selection a LOT of prospective jurors were excused because they had personally experienced domestic violence at some point in their lives. Apparently it's a HUGE problem in our society.