Get over yourself. Some have families around us all our lives guiding us, nuturing us and we still make poor decisions. The sign of a wise sane man is that he learns from his mistakes and changes and we know who he is. The sign of insanity is to continue doing the same mistake over and over again hoping to get a good result and we know who she is. My radar is adjusted for self-righteous individuals who dare to act as though they've never error'd in judgement because if they could get over their narcissistic selves they'd be humbled by the fact that theirs aren't the only rules in town and they could get well and move into the realm of sanity, of wisedom which brings with it the humility to foregive and love and be touched by a greater force than themselves.