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By Jackie Valley (contact) 
Sunday, Jan. 27, 2013 | 2 a.m.
Editor’s note: The Sun agreed not to publish the names of the women who attended this support group session at the Las Vegas Rape Crisis Center. Conversation in this cozy break room doesn’t come easily. The women sitting around a table often start and stop, pausing to catch a stray tear or find the right words. They are victims of rape — a one-syllable, four-letter word that haunts these women gathered on a brisk, mid-November evening at the Las Vegas Rape Crisis Center. Their mission: listen and, when and if they’re ready, talk. There are no expectations, no pressure to ...
"In 2010, the National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey found nearly 1 in 5 women in the United States had been raped at some point in their lives. . . . .rapes tend to increase Super Bowl weekend. . . . ."
Valley -- you've revised the old DV myths of both the Wellesley Study poll and Super Bowl Sunday. Although actual rape should never be tolerated, you failed to factor in the flipsides. Like how rape accusations too often use the state as a handy club against a partner after a consensual act. Or how the accusation effectively carries the guilt with it. And how politicized it's become -- thank our VP for that.
"Makes you feel ashamed to live in a land where justice is a game." -- Bob Dylan "Hurricane"
Most rape victims are drugged by the pervert.
We're doing something woefully inadequate in the way we raise our sons. These guys think it's OK to violently rape women and men. WHEN will we stop favoring boys in everything from classroom attention, Mom's attention, clearly Dad's attention? Kids (and people) often do what you do not what you say. So as they observe you putting the boys priority one with attention, toys, presents, consideration and they observe you putting the girls last, WE LEARN to let boys "be boys" while girls are FORCED to be subservient.
Here's a means to test the above: talk to adult men who don't have partners. Try guys in their 30's, 40's. So many of them just can't find the "right girl"--who looks like Jennifer A., thin and peppy, good income, who will DEVOTE all her attention onto him, showering him with affection, cooking for him, dropping all other associations to DEVOTE herself to him. Gee, ever consider, she wants a life too, not indentured servitude. And it's funny 'cause nowadays the guys even expect their "women" to financially support them too. Here's an idea if you have a problem sustaining a relationship: What's in it for the woman? Even IF you are good in bed, she can get that and a RELATIONSHIP elsewhere.
"Gee, ever consider, she wants a life too, not indentured servitude."
Roslenda -- your posts raised good points. It's way too easy to detach from reality and become part of the comfortable, collective illusion I call the herd.
Along the lines of your post I submit the contrasts of two young women, one being my daughter, the other a close friend's daughter. The former has not given me grandchildren and instead gone her own way totally opposite of how she was raised. The latter got pregnant young and married the father. It's easy to dismiss the latter as a cow, since she did not have a life of her own. Yet her kids are precious additions to humanity, especially her daughter, a fiercely independent little girl turning eleven today, and a force of nature. Kind of like my own daughter.
"...but a little girl's nod, if it should so happen, will move him..." -- "Discourses of Epictetus," Arrian c. 108 A.C.E.