Columnist Lisa Ferguson: Trends, May 15, 2000

Lisa Ferguson

Monday, May 15, 2000 | 10:09 a.m.

More than words

In case you hadn't noticed, some families aren't so nuclear these days.

According to greeting card-maker Hallmark, about 65 percent of families in this country are nontraditional, and typically include a stepparent/stepchild relationship. The company also knows that two out of every three of its customers belongs to a non-nuclear family (which is defined as a situation other than a married couple and their biological children).

With that in mind, Hallmark recently released a line of cards called "Ties That Bind," designed for these family members to give to each other.

A birthday card for a stepmom (or whatever you call dad's special companion) reads: "Thank you for all you've done to make my dad so happy."

Stepsisters on the outs? Try this one: "I just want you to know that even though it's a little confusing right now, I feel lucky to have you in my life and glad that you're part of my world."

Ties That Bind cards, which come in 104 designs, retail for $1.95 or $2.95 at Hallmark stores.

Party on

That famous song is making the rounds again: The notes of "Pomp and Circumstance" waft through the air every year around this time.

The tune is invariably followed by some serious partying. But the folks at Party411.com remind that the excitement of graduating school doesn't mean it's OK to toss away your manners like you do that goofy, square cap.

The website is offering advice from its resident "Etiquette Queen," "Party Girl" and "Party Doctor" (whoever they are) on proper graduate behavior.

First, for the ceremony, don't even think of wearing some garish printed shirt and shorts underneath that itchy, polyester graduation gown. Guys should keep it simple -- a tie and a collared shirt over casual khaki or olive-colored pants. Simplicity also suits the ladies. Chose a skirt and blouse or a dress that is light in color if the gown is yellow or white. And all graduates should leave the flip-flops, tennis shoes and bunny slippers at home -- no matter how funny you think it might be to wear them.

The site also advises to "have at least one fabulous graduation party" for those who attended the ceremony. Open-house parties are traditional, but an organized gathering can include a roast of the graduate, a buffet dinner or a theme reflecting the graduate's big plans for the future (if any).

Show your patriotism

What's a party without favors? Not much fun, even when the party is a political one.

The Ralph Marlin Co. has earned a reputation for its wacky neckware designs. It recently introduced a line of ties that both diehard Republicans and Democrats will be proud to wear.

The microfiber ties are emblazoned with a U.S. flag print and feature either an elephant or a donkey mascot bursting through a "United States of America" seal. Other designs include the flag comprised of red and blue M&M candies and a map of the country featuring the stars and stripes.

Ralph Marlin ties, as well as the company's other products (boxer shorts, pants, shirts, socks and women's scarves), are sold in speciality and department stores. For more information, visitwww.ralphmarlin.com.